tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2657453025378466090.comments2019-05-10T11:37:35.948-05:00Bi(sexuality)The Way, I'm OutTimhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05383759927244981112noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2657453025378466090.post-5574782765741925022019-05-10T11:37:35.948-05:002019-05-10T11:37:35.948-05:00George, Thanks for taking the time to read and com...George, Thanks for taking the time to read and comment on my post.Timhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05383759927244981112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2657453025378466090.post-90412114436239420152019-05-10T07:59:57.349-05:002019-05-10T07:59:57.349-05:00Thanks for sharing your experience. I identify as ...Thanks for sharing your experience. I identify as Bi my whole adult life, but I never came out during my career. Now, that i am retired, I wear a Pride bracelet everyday. George Juegohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14421243566484974196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2657453025378466090.post-45176266222552612692019-03-20T18:32:58.074-05:002019-03-20T18:32:58.074-05:00I know the impact of this on your life was monumen...I know the impact of this on your life was monumental. I am so happy you have been able to not only talk about it, but break the cycle in your family. It sounds as though you have experienced some healing around this part of your life, even though it will always be part of you, it doesn't define you.<br /><br />As I said in the article, the big factor that makes this run through generation upon generation is that it often starts with a child who is very young. When you are raised to believe it is your normal and that is just how life is, you become brainwashed about it. Its no different that growing up in a family where the husband beats his wife while the small children watch. The son grows up to believe that is how to treat a wife, and the daughter grows up expecting to be treated that way. Even though they may realize deep down it's wrong the fear of change (the unknown) will keep them from seeing out a healthy relationship.Timhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05383759927244981112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2657453025378466090.post-54877706966424474432019-03-20T01:17:43.921-05:002019-03-20T01:17:43.921-05:00Thank you for this. There is something similar in ...Thank you for this. There is something similar in my family going back generations. What did you find in your research that confirmed the commonality of this pattern in families? Even though I've told the secret within and without my family of origin, and even though I've stopped the cycle, it's still deeply validating to read your words.DCDivahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10336211685232373920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2657453025378466090.post-41412073058084850752019-03-19T17:04:36.374-05:002019-03-19T17:04:36.374-05:00You are very welcome! I have come to terms with my...You are very welcome! I have come to terms with my bisexuality as it relates to my belief system and the church I attend. There is another post (Part 2) that discusses that part of my journey. <br /><br />Additionally, I have grown even past that point. I will need to write part three soon.<br />Timhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05383759927244981112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2657453025378466090.post-64951452644993574912019-03-18T23:05:27.125-05:002019-03-18T23:05:27.125-05:00Thanks for this tale. My own is similar but I than...Thanks for this tale. My own is similar but I thankfully came from a more tolerant religion. Congratulations on taking one of the most important journeys you will do in your life. Wondershovelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08664821084970682867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2657453025378466090.post-10057099511366940522019-01-03T19:38:24.612-06:002019-01-03T19:38:24.612-06:00Actually, I doubt there are any Buddhists in heave...Actually, I doubt there are any Buddhists in heaven, as they do not believe in heaven (and actually do believe in reincarnation), ha ha ha.<br /><br />They do, however, have ideas of hell (or hells), funny enough, but still in the context of reincarnation.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2657453025378466090.post-42869138995920369832018-07-03T13:57:55.131-05:002018-07-03T13:57:55.131-05:00Exactly! Not such a bad thing now, unless I would ...Exactly! Not such a bad thing now, unless I would end up in a same sex relationship. That could cause problems.Timhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05383759927244981112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2657453025378466090.post-53263160269588282972018-07-03T06:32:15.952-05:002018-07-03T06:32:15.952-05:00Another thing to consider is that, if you're n...Another thing to consider is that, if you're not out at work and the stakes are so high, then you might have to stay closeted in other aspects of your life, especially public events.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2657453025378466090.post-11670867941291676472018-06-26T19:37:04.716-05:002018-06-26T19:37:04.716-05:00I don't think that is it, because he openly ta...I don't think that is it, because he openly talks a bout his boyfriend daily.Timhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05383759927244981112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2657453025378466090.post-9693067131934135172018-06-26T06:28:26.810-05:002018-06-26T06:28:26.810-05:00Sounds like your co-worker was more afraid about y...Sounds like your co-worker was more afraid about you telling people he was at Pride.Miguel Pascoehttps://www.facebook.com/miguel.pascoenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2657453025378466090.post-62452699507317515712018-06-15T17:58:54.851-05:002018-06-15T17:58:54.851-05:00When it gets down to it, only I will choose how I ...When it gets down to it, only I will choose how I identify and no one else will tell me that what I have chosen is wrong.Timhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05383759927244981112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2657453025378466090.post-64900771965204596372018-06-15T17:37:12.887-05:002018-06-15T17:37:12.887-05:00Bravo!
I agree with the definition of "more ...Bravo!<br /><br />I agree with the definition of "more than one" and hell, if someone wants to call themself "pansexual" it's no skin off my butt but my personal feeling is that "Pan" does indeed mean "all" and I think we should stick with consenting adult humans. Jack Harkness is "pan" sexual because he's attracted to sentient individuals of other species. Me, I stick with grown-up humans.Lee Rowanhttp://www.lee-rowan.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2657453025378466090.post-14095700241059468742018-06-14T10:50:33.442-05:002018-06-14T10:50:33.442-05:00I would hope after reading my troubles with bullyi...I would hope after reading my troubles with bullying as a child would help you to realize I didn't do this just to get traffic on my blog. My blog doesn't have advertising on it at all. Its sole purpose is to be a place for Bi+ people. I just googled mass shooting in Canada, the UK, Australia, Germany, and Europe. In each case Wikipedia has a listing by year for each and in all cases they all had enough of them to make a list. The UK especially had not only shootings listed, but stabbing and bombings.<br /><br />Furthermore, it is a proven fact that LGBTQ teens have a higher rate of mental health issues because of being treated differently. While it isn't only LGBTQ teens whole perpetrate these crimes, they are more likely to do so because of the amount of bullying they suffer.<br /><br />This whole issue is very complex and the answer to the problem will need to be multifaceted as well. Furthermore, most sane and rational people aren't the ones committing these crimes so there has to be a mental health aspect to the solution.<br /><br />Just last night after publishing this post I watched a YouTube video where a man made a homemade fully automatic crossbow out of plywood and a cordless power drill. It held and shot over 30 crossbow bolts in a matter of seconds. None of the supplies needed to make this weapon are regulated and can be purchased by teens.<br /><br />Like I said, it is a complex problem requiring a complex solution. Lastly, These shootings have been going on for a very long time. The Kent state shootings happened in 1970, with a rifle, a pistol, and a shotgun. Thirteen people were killed or wounded. The Columbine Shooting was in 1999. The weapons used were one automatic machine gun, one pump action shotgun, one sawed off shotgun, 99 explosives, and a knife. In both of these cases there was no bully in the Oval Office at the time. <br /><br />You are totally within your right to hold your opinions in this matter, as I am mine. Thank you for your input.Timhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05383759927244981112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2657453025378466090.post-75422120441319591952018-06-13T23:53:35.142-05:002018-06-13T23:53:35.142-05:00To say school shootings are caused by bullying not...To say school shootings are caused by bullying not guns misses the point that ours is the only civilized country where these school shootings are happening, day after day. Have they not got bullies in Canada? Or Britain? Or Australia? Or are our bullies an example of our exceptionalism, perhaps emboldened by the bully in the Oval Office? I haven't heard reports of frequent mass rock bludgeonings or fertilizer bombs or mass stabbings in other countries schools and colleges, either. Worst of all, trying to make out that school shootings is a LGBTQ issue feels like an opportunistic attempt to increase traffic to your blog.Alexisnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2657453025378466090.post-27527778771433669102018-05-23T08:58:50.504-05:002018-05-23T08:58:50.504-05:00Thanks so much for taking the time to read my blog...Thanks so much for taking the time to read my blog! You should be proud of yourself for doing your part to make things better for the LGBTQ+ people in your community!Timhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05383759927244981112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2657453025378466090.post-4170446532162854342018-05-23T03:20:40.560-05:002018-05-23T03:20:40.560-05:00Woohoo! And good luck to you -- I had the same fee...Woohoo! And good luck to you -- I had the same feeling back in '94 and there's now been a regular bi safe-space meet in my city at least once a month for the last 24 years. Jenhttp://jenyockney.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2657453025378466090.post-46877155861165705012018-05-16T12:25:17.994-05:002018-05-16T12:25:17.994-05:00Thank you for your input.
Thank you for your input.<br />Timhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05383759927244981112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2657453025378466090.post-32167965867832310522018-05-16T11:30:17.961-05:002018-05-16T11:30:17.961-05:00I can verify the Methodists are opening their hear...I can verify the Methodists are opening their hearts tonthe LGBT community. We had a woman pastor who wore rainbow colored garb on the pulpit.<br /><br />Yes, her girlfriend lived with her in the parsonage. Wonderful woman, but they moved her on as they do all the good ones.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2657453025378466090.post-69386969507569084452018-05-01T15:03:35.267-05:002018-05-01T15:03:35.267-05:00I also wanted to say that you are absolutely corre...I also wanted to say that you are absolutely correct, God does love you exactly the way He created you, in His own image.Timhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05383759927244981112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2657453025378466090.post-90477977077869119822018-05-01T15:02:03.130-05:002018-05-01T15:02:03.130-05:00Patrick,
There is absolutely no shame, whatsoeve...Patrick, <br /><br />There is absolutely no shame, whatsoever, in what you went through and how bad things got for you! What we went through in those years was nothing short of Hell! I'm glad you made it through to the other side! God loves you, and I love you for being you!Timhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05383759927244981112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2657453025378466090.post-73682299384232604262018-05-01T14:59:18.178-05:002018-05-01T14:59:18.178-05:00Maribou, I could not agree with you any more than ...Maribou, I could not agree with you any more than I already do! Unfortunately, I must not have made my point clearly enough. That comment was directed at the "Straight Parent" reading this post who doesn't have any understanding of what it is like to be bisexual. <br /><br />Like you, I wouldn't choose to be anything but. However, there are a lot of negatives that go along with being bisexual, that many of us endure gladly. I have never felt more myself than I have since I came out in February. I now have an inner piece I never knew, even when I had yet to realize my bisexuality. To be blunt, it is the first time I have felt whole in my entire life. Yet, there are still things about being an out bisexual that if I was looking at it from a straight person's point of view, that would definitely make me think twice. Which is what I wanted to make parents understand as they read my article. Thank you for your comment and giving me the chance to respond.<br /><br />Keep being the best bisexual you, you can be, in hopes of making the world a better place for everyone some day!Timhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05383759927244981112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2657453025378466090.post-76015664646854830872018-05-01T11:33:45.765-05:002018-05-01T11:33:45.765-05:00This is a beautiful post.
One small quibble:
&quo...This is a beautiful post.<br /><br />One small quibble:<br />"I have never understood why people would think someone would willing choose a LGBTQ+ lifestyle. "<br />I would willingly choose an LGBTQ+ lifestyle. If I could go back in time and choose to be straight, at *any* point (even the one where my father was violent with me because of it), I would not do so. I'm not saying I could! Just that if I could, I still wouldn't.<br /><br />For me, I cherish bisexuality and I cherish the beauty I find in men and women, and the extra spark that sexual attraction brings to my perception of that beauty. I also cherish the many aspects of my personality that have only developed, and the tight friendships I've made, within the LGBTQ+ community over the years. And I am confident (at this point in my life) that God cherishes me as I am, as well.<br /><br />For me, and speaking just for me, bisexuality is more in tune with who I am and how I like to do things than being straight would be. I would *of course* choose not to be stigmatized, not to be mistreated, etc etc if I had that choice. But no way would I give up my bisexuality, no matter what harms I could avoid because of it.maribouhttp://maribou.dreamwidth.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2657453025378466090.post-4985580258537120472018-05-01T10:07:51.945-05:002018-05-01T10:07:51.945-05:00Raised in the midwest 60's-70's, uber Cath...Raised in the midwest 60's-70's, uber Catholic upbringing, came out at 38 after being on the verge of suicide. I wish I had been a strong enough person back then to be able to accept myself.Patrick8200https://www.blogger.com/profile/05819178784394875998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2657453025378466090.post-60533394895691387342018-04-19T23:52:25.268-05:002018-04-19T23:52:25.268-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06296556759250739518noreply@blogger.com